By Kama Yama
Last week was dedicated to the g-spot. This week is dedicated to the p-spot. I haven’t forgotten the male anatomy!
The p-spot stands for the prostate gland. It can also stand for the perineum. The perineum is the area of skin between the scrotum and the anus. When pressed and massaged it can reveal pleasurable results.
The prostate gland requires one to be a little more adventurous. To stimulate the prostate gland, you need to be relaxed. This needs to be something you’re interested in doing because stimulating the prostate gland requires some anal play. The prostate gland is located about three inches inside the rectum and can be reached with the fingers and a ‘come here’ motion. The p-spot is located on the front wall of the rectum (towards the naval) and feels like a round nub. It is about the size of a walnut.
To start with p-spot exploration, make sure your hands or your partner’s hands are clean and the fingernails trimmed. Use lots of lube since the rectum is not self lubricating. There are lubes made specifically for anal play, but using a good quality regular lube should be fine. Start slow and just try inserting one finger, keeping the sphincter muscle as relaxed as possible.
If you feel yourself tensing up, stop, breathe, and then continue if and whenyou’re comfortable. If it would make you feel better, you can always wear a medical glove for anal play. You should always wash your hands and toys thoroughly with anti-bacterial soap after anal play, but If you’re worried about the cleanliness of p-spot exploration, you’re unlikely to pull your finger or toy out covered in feces.
The best position for p-spot exploration is probably to have the man lying on his back with his legs apart. In this position, the man can explore alone, with a partner or with a toy. There are many toys available specifically for p-spot exploration. LELO just came out with a new toy for men called Bob. There is also the line by Nexus, as well as nJoy. Using a toy will allow for a little more ease in positioning and control. If you’re using a toy, you can try a variety of positions as well. When it comes to p-spot stimulation, I would really recommend that you use medical grade silicone, steel, or glass toys simply because they are non-porous and can be disinfected easily. Other toys on the market, while good, cannot be so easily disinfected.
What I find most interesting about the p-spot is that it allows a man to orgasm without actually ejaculating so you can continue to have sex or have sex immediately afterwards. These orgasms also tend to last longer than the traditional penile orgasm. Like the g-spot, p-spot stimulation can give you the urge to urinate. If you can make it past this sensation, it should become pleasurable and lead to an orgasm.
Engaging in anal exploration/play does not make a man gay. The anus is rich with nerve endings, and by not exploring this natural pleasure zone you are ignoring a world of pleasure and possibilities. I’m not advocating, by any means, that you stick a finger or toy up your bum the next time you’re jacking off, but keep it in mind, and if you’re feeling up to it, touch the anus and rub it a little. See how it feels and if you like it, next time, try doing a little more.
If you have a male partner who is interested in p-spot exploration, please don’t flip out or call him disgusting for wanting to explore and include you in those explorations. If you’re uncomfortable, talk about it and figure out why exactly you feel uncomfortable. It may be unconventional to explore the anus and rectum in our society, but that doesn’t mean that we should ignore rich pleasure zones.
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Signing off for now, remember to always Kovet Yourself.
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